Play Therapy and Autism

How Play Therapy Supports Children with Autism

Play therapy provides children a safe, accepting environment where they can build relationships, explore emotions, develop self-awareness, and strengthen regulation skills.  Because play is a child's natural language.  Play therapy uses developmentally appropriate experiences to support growth while honoring each child's unique strengths, interests, sensory needs, and communication style.

A neurodivergent-affirming play therapist recognizes that Autism is not something to be fixed. Instead, therapy focuses on supporting emotional well-being, self-advocacy, regulation, relationships, and meaningful participation in the child's daily life.

Building Connection in the Brain

Modern neuroscience demonstrates that relationships help shape the developing brain. Repeated experiences of attunement, safety, and connection strengthen neural pathways involved in emotional regulation, social engagement, communication, and resilience.

When a therapist consistently responds with empathy, acceptance, and understanding, the child's brain repeatedly practices connection. These experiences strengthen the neural networks responsible for:

• Social engagement

• Emotional regulation

• Flexible thinking

• Communication

• Self-awareness

• Attachment and trust

• Stress management

Play is especially powerful because it engages multiple regions of the brain simultaneously. During play, children are actively processing sensory information, emotions, movement, relationships, problem-solving, and creativity. These repeated experiences help strengthen the brain's capacity for connection, regulation, and learning.

The Power of Connection

Because children learn about relationships through relationships, the connection formed in play therapy often lays the groundwork for future peer relationships.

One of the most important aspects of play therapy is the therapeutic relationship itself. Through consistent experiences of safety, acceptance, and attunement, children learn that relationships can feel predictable, supportive, and rewarding.

The therapist joins in the child's interests and responds with warmth and understanding.

These experiences help children develop:

• Trust

• Emotional awareness

• Boundaries

• Confidence

• Self-expression

• Communication skills

• Relationship-building skills

Building the Foundation for Friendships

Many social skills programs focus on teaching specific behaviors. While these can be helpful, authentic friendships are built upon deeper skills such as trust, emotional awareness, flexibility, perspective-taking, and connection.

Through play therapy, children have opportunities to:

• Participate in shared experiences

• Practice turn-taking naturally

• Develop joint attention

• Explore emotional expression

• Learn to navigate frustrations

• Build confidence interacting with others

As children experience successful, supportive interactions with both their therapist and caregivers, they often become more comfortable engaging with peers in other settings.

Strengthening the Parent-Child Relationship

Play Therapy can support the parent/child relationships which lays the groundwork for all relationships.  

Strengthening the parent/child relationship can lead to:

• Increased positive social skills and emotional connection

• Reduce power struggles

• Increased regulation

• Confidence and resilience 

A stronger parent-child relationship provides children with a secure base from which they can explore the world and develop relationships with others.

Sensory Regulation: A Critical Part of Development

For many children with Autism, sensory experiences strongly influence emotions, behavior, attention, learning, and social interactions. A child who is overwhelmed by sensory input may struggle to engage, communicate, learn, or participate in relationships because their nervous system is working hard to manage sensory information.

Play therapy often provides opportunities to explore sensory experiences in a safe, supportive environment.  The therapist supports the child in regulating through utilizing various sensory inputs.  Additionally, the therapist supports the child and parents in developing skills to support the child's sensory needs.  

These experiences help children become more aware of what their bodies need in order to feel comfortable, calm, alert, and regulated.

Understanding the Child's Sensory Needs

Play therapy helps children identify:

• What sensory experiences feel calming

• What sensory experiences feel overwhelming

• How sensory input affects emotions and behavior

• What strategies help them feel regulated

• How to communicate sensory needs to others

Over time, children can develop greater awareness of their internal experiences and learn to advocate for their needs more effectively.

Supporting Co-Regulation and Self-Regulation

Children first learn regulation through co-regulation with trusted adults. When a therapist remains calm, attuned, and responsive during moments of dysregulation, the child's nervous system experiences safety and support.

Repeated experiences of co-regulation help children gradually develop:

• Emotional regulation skills

• Frustration tolerance

• Coping strategies

• Flexibility

• Self-awareness

• Self-regulation skills

Rather than expecting children to regulate independently before they are ready, play therapy recognizes that regulation develops within relationships.

Learning Limits and Boundaries

Play therapy is often thought of as completely child-led, but healthy limits and boundaries remain an important part of treatment.

Within the safety of the therapeutic relationship, children learn that:

• Feelings are always accepted

• Behaviors have limits

• Boundaries can be firm and supportive at the same time

• Adults can maintain limits while preserving connection

When limits are needed, therapists respond with empathy and consistency. Rather than relying on punishment or shame, therapists help children understand expectations while supporting regulation and emotional expression.

Children have opportunities to practice:

• Managing disappointment

• Delaying gratification

• Tolerating frustration

• Accepting limits

• Problem-solving

• Recovering after mistakes

For many children with Autism, difficulties with flexibility or transitions can make boundaries challenging. Through repeated supportive experiences, children learn that limits can feel safe and predictable rather than threatening.

These experiences often generalize to home, school, and community settings, improving cooperation and reducing conflict.

Healing Through Play

For children with Autism, play therapy is not about changing who they are. It is about supporting the child's nervous system, strengthening relationships, building emotional awareness, developing regulation skills, and creating opportunities for meaningful connection.

When children experience safe relationships with both therapists and caregivers, they gain the foundation needed to navigate challenges, develop confidence, and build authentic relationships throughout their lives.

Learn more about Child Parent Relationship Therapy.  

Learn more about Worry/Anxiety and Play Therapy.  

Learn more about parent coaching services.

Learn more about the Benefits of Play Therapy.   

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Mary Virginia Kline, M.Ed., Ed.S., LMHC, RPT
Licensed Mental Health Counselor
Registered Play Therapist

MV Kline Counseling
Tampa, Florida
(850) 296-8653
MV Kline Counseling

Neurodivergent-affirming play therapy for Autism, ADHD, sensory processing differences, anxiety, emotional regulation, trauma, social-emotional development, and early childhood mental health.

This is not professional advice.